Wednesday, October 31, 2018

The Synagogue Slayings: Vote Democrat to Reverse Descent into Darkness



“This cannot be who we are as Americans.”

That was my first reaction to the massacre in the “Tree of Life” synagogue in Pittsburgh where eleven Jewish worshipers, ages from 54 to 97 and engrossed in the remembrance of God, were killed on October 27, by hate and bullets. It was the worst instance of anti-Semitic violence in America’s 242-year-old history.

My next thought was, “This must NOT be who we are.”

But what could I, an American-Muslim, do to support my Jewish fellow-Americans? As the director of outreach of Evergreen Islamic Center in San Jose, I quickly put out a press release:
“We members of the Evergreen Islamic Center (EIC) of San Jose are devastated by the terrorism unleashed at the “Tree of Life” synagogue in Pittsburgh by a gunman that left eleven people dead and several wounded. We express our support for and solidarity with the Jewish community in Pittsburgh and throughout America following this deadly attack.

There is a horrifying outbreak of hate and bigotry across America today. Our schools, public venues and places of worship are under assault by the intolerant and the violent. Yet we must not give up hope. We must continue to build alliances with the majority of Americans to stop the violence and the intolerance that are ripping our country apart. We pledge to work unceasingly with our fellow-Americans in ensuring that people of all persuasions and color are safe from the lone-wolf terrorist or organized groups involved in terrorism. We also urge all registered voters to vote their conscience in the midterm elections on November 6, only a few days away.”

On Sunday morning, several of us from EIC attended a service at the Shir Hadash synagogue in Los Gatos, CA, and listened to a moving talk by Rabbi Reuven Firestone on “Pursuing Justice in Polarized Times.” He spoke of a God who was both a God of Justice and a God of Mercy. Among the believers of monotheistic faiths are some who only believe in a God of justice, he said. They suffer from religious chauvinism and often become extreme. There are others who only believe in a God of mercy. They are at the other end of the spectrum. The Rabbi exhorted us to become moderates, balancing justice and mercy, because “God is both.” “We cannot continue to see the world only in our own way. We must also see the way of the others,” he said. “I am right and you are wrong” only leads to violence. “Fear,” he cautioned, “causes you to hate. So, the question is: how do we get rid of fear?” The Rabbi challenged us to come up with solutions to this existential threat.

I made the point at the end of the Rabbi’s talk that we cannot come together only in the wake of a tragedy. “We should regularly get together over our daily life; music, poetry, food, and exchange ideas so we get to see all of us in the full light of our humanity.”
From the synagogue, my wife and I went to the Jewish Film Festival at the AMC Saratoga 14 Theater (running through November 11) in San Jose to show our solidarity with the grieving Jewish community. We acted as volunteer security guards, a small gesture no doubt, but one deeply appreciated by Mark Levine, board president of the Silicon Valley Jewish Film Festival, and other members. Mark read to the gathering inside the theater what I had written to him in an email: “An attack on a synagogue is an attack on all of us, and on the foundational values of America.”

Mark Levine, board president of the Silicon Valley Jewish Film Festival, and Hasan Zillur Rahim, director of outreach at Evergreen Islamic Center, pose together for a photo outside the AMC Saratoga 14 movie theater in San Jose on Sunday, Oct. 28, 2018. Rahim was one of several members of faith groups that reached out to show solidarity with Jews in the wake of Saturday’s shooting attack on a synagogue in Pittsburgh. (Joseph Geha/Bay Area News Group)


What contributed to this horrific outbreak of violence, first the pipe bombs, then the synagogue slayings? There is no denying that the toxic messages of hate and bigotry coming from the highest office in the land have emboldened extremists to act on their darkest instincts.
Any statistician will tell you that causality is almost impossible to prove, but in this case, the correlation between what president Trump says and what his sycophants do is very strong. He uses fear to galvanize his base. He has aggressively promoted the idea that xenophobia is a better substitute for patriotism and violence and cruelty are preferable to negotiation and kindness. The unwashed barbarians apparently carrying deadly diseases and hiding terrorists among them are about to invade us, he said of the caravan of immigrants from Central America making their slow and painful journey toward the US border. He has dispatched over 5,000 soldiers to stop the “invasion.” He has also threatened to do away with the 14th Amendment by denying citizenship rights to babies born in the United States.
When a definitive history is written a decade or two from now on the Trump presidency, he will be harshly judged. He has polarized the country, damaged its institutions and made hate mainstream among Republicans. His incompetence, malevolence, vulgarity, narcissism and mendacity are certain to mark him as the worst US president ever.
But the verdict of history is years away and by then permanent damage to the United States will probably have been done. The critical question is: What can we do NOW to reverse this descent into darkness?
There is only answer: Vote in the midterm elections on Tuesday, November 6, and vote for democrats. There is no other way to stop America from turning into a country of intolerance and inhumanity, a country where the pain of the poor translates into privilege for the rich.

Sunday, October 07, 2018

Regrets of Inaction Longer-Lasting


According to a recent studywe regret more what we did NOT do rather than what we did. In other words, sins of omission weigh more heavily on our minds than sins of commission. The paper concluded: “In the short term, people regret their actions more than inactions. But in the long term, the inaction regrets stick around longer.”

I wanted to test the validity of this finding by querying my students. Granted, they are only in their 20's and 30's and are perhaps too young to lament what they have NOT done, since they have plenty of time to DO it, unlike most people in their 80's or 90's.

Still, I wanted to probe their mind to see if even at a relatively young age, the burden of inaction began to pile up and influenced their outlook on life.


This was the question I posed to them: What is the one thing that you have NOT done in your life so far that you regret the most and that, if you could go back in time, you would definitely DO it?

And this is what poured forth from most of them, that they should have traveled to other countries when the opportunity came and when they had the time, instead of opting to earn money through part-time jobs.

Brian’s response was typical: “I regret most not traveling overseas after high school when I had fewer responsibilities: France, Italy, China. But now I am too busy with all the stuff of life!”
Diana: “Wish I traveled. I wish I took a break just for me to have some fun, instead of working all the time.”

Karen: “Not going to Europe with my school friends when I had the opportunity. Now it’s too late! Already I have so much responsibilities!”

Leslie: Not traveling when I was younger. So many places, beautiful people, good food!

Kemala was born in Indonesia and studied in Germany before migrating to United States. Her plaintive regret is palpable: “I am really sad that I did not travel in the countries of Europe when I was in Germany. I always thought, ‘I can do it later,’ but now it seems too late. Caught up with too many things! I went back to Indonesia and now I am in the US and I don’t know when I can travel in Europe.”

Liz has the same remorse: “Not going backpacking with my sister last summer in Europe. She had such a great time and came back a new person! I was too busy working and making money. Bad mistake. The experience would have been so much better!”

Fred is a successful businessman but cannot shake off his regret:” I should have traveled to other countries when I was younger in my 20’s. Now I am older (37) and established and vested in my company. It’s harder to step away and take vacations. With age, we slow down physically. Now I am tired, something I was not when I was younger.”

Yvonne looks back with sorrow at the decision she made two years back: “I had an opportunity to teach English to children in Korea. I didn’t do it and now I am busy with life here. I wish I did what I really wanted to do. It would have made so much difference, more to me than to those children.”

Melanie also regrets not traveling: “The farthest I have been to is Lake Tahoe and Monterey. I am currently saving up money to travel to Mexico to see my grandparents.”

We have all met or read about people whose lives were transformed by travel. Take veteran actor Robert Redford, 82, whose latest movie, The Old Man & the Gun, has just been released to theaters around the country. In an interview (TIME, October 15, 2018), he disclosed how, while growing up in lower-working-class environment in Los Angeles, he hung out with his high-school crowd who often got into trouble. But a certain wanderlust always gnawed at him. “I wanted to be in Paris. I wanted to be in Spain. So when I was about 19, I saved up enough money to last me for a year.” Redford left the United States. “That experience is what really changed my life, because then I saw the outside world.” His time away changed his view of the world and of his home country. It saved him from a life that could have splintered into many useless fragments. “When I went to Europe, I understood more about politics and about human nature.” This
new perspective is what he attributes to his activism.

I held up this example to my students and told them to seize the next opportunity that came along to travel and just go!

While not traveling was their biggest regret (some are determined not to repeat that mistake), there were other regrets of inaction too.

Amanda regrets not opening her own business when she could, her own fashion store. “But maybe I can still make my dream come true.”

Gutierrez regrets not completing his Bachelor’s Degree right after high school. “I decided to focus more on money, so I dropped out of San Jose State University. It is difficult returning to school later in a life of career and child.”

Cheryl regrets not completing her education and getting a career when she was 25. “By now I would have had my own house, called my own shots. Instead, I got married right after high school. I promised I would return after a few months. Did not happen. By the time I returned to school, seven long years have passed! I am now a mom with babies and both my husband and I work and there is no time or fun for anything, with babies around!”

Perhaps the most poignant response came from Jonathan. “Even though I am young, the one thing I haven’t done in my life is give my parents some stability, like buying them a house or helping them retire. My parents work extremely hard and growing up, I gave them a very hard time. I just want to be able to pay for their hard work and show them how much I care for them. They are older, and I don’t want anything to happen to them before I can help them.”

I was compelled to tell Jonathan: "You still can!

But for the most surprising response, the one that was at once baffling and filled with bathos, this one beat all other entries. Clark wrote: “I should have dated more. I waited until I was 25 and the first person I dated, I ended up marrying her. Because of my lack of dating, I never learned to kiss properly and be romantic enough, because I had no practice. My wife dislikes that about me. I wish I dated more!”